7 Reasons Every Engaged Couple Needs a Conversation Guide Before Saying “I Do”

Kimberly Smiley
Jun 2
4 min read

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If you're an engaged couple who wants to build a strong, connected, and lasting marriage—you, my friend, are in the right place.

Before I created the Top 10 Conversations for Engaged Couples guide, I kept hearing the same thing from couples over and over again:

“We just want to make sure we’ve talked about all the important stuff before we get married.”

And it makes sense. Planning a wedding is one thing. But planning a life together? That requires depth, intention, and the right conversations.

Like many couples, my clients often felt unsure—wondering if they were asking the right questions or avoiding tough topics. They wanted to feel prepared, confident, and truly aligned before walking down the aisle.

That’s why I created this $7 resource—a guide that leads couples through ten of the most important conversations they must have before marriage. It’s clear, easy to use, and based on my 20+ years of clinical expertise.

So if you want to feel closer, communicate better, and prepare for the real work of marriage—this guide is for you. Here are 7 reasons why...

1. You’ll Uncover Expectations You Didn’t Know You Had

One of the biggest traps couples fall into is assuming they’re on the same page—only to discover later that they never really talked about something.

This guide prompts you to explore important topics like:

Who handles what in the household,
Whether or not you’ll share passwords,
What physical and emotional intimacy should look like.

When you bring unspoken expectations into the light, you prevent resentment from ever forming. That’s how trust is built.

2. You’ll Improve Communication Instantly

This guide teaches simple, science-backed strategies—like how to use a “gentle start-up” during hard conversations and how to create a weekly check-in ritual.

If communication has ever felt like a struggle—or you worry about misunderstanding each other later—these tools are a game-changer.

You’ll walk away with go-to phrases, habits, and prompts that make everyday conversations easier, and deeper conversations more productive.

3. You’ll Finally Talk About the Money Stuff (Without Fighting)

Finances are one of the top causes of stress in marriage. But most couples don’t get into the details until after they say “I do”—which is often too late.

This guide walks you through how to:

Outline financial goals,
Compare budgeting styles,
Explore each other’s money mindset.

Couples often tell me, “We thought we were on the same page… until we saw it written out.” These prompts will help you create a unified money plan together—without the drama.

4. You’ll Be More Prepared for Parenthood (Even If You’re Not Ready Yet)

Whether you want kids right away, someday, or not at all—this is a topic that deserves thoughtful discussion.

This guide includes key questions like:

How many children do we envision?
What are our parenting values?
What role will extended family play?

Even just talking through the “what ifs” now will give you peace of mind and shared understanding for the future.

5. You’ll Strengthen Your Emotional and Physical Connection

Intimacy isn’t just about sex—it’s about the rituals, words, touch, and time that make each of you feel loved.

In the guide, I’ve included conversation prompts and activities that help you explore your preferences around:

Sexual connection,
Non-sexual intimacy,
Public displays of affection,
Emotional safety.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re trying to connect but missing each other, these questions can create real breakthroughs.

6. You’ll Create a Shared Vision for the Future

Where will you live? What does “success” look like to each of you? How do you want to handle changes in careers, health, or retirement?

This guide helps you explore your long-term goals side by side—so you’re planning your life together, not just your wedding.

Many couples say this is the section that makes them feel the most like a team.

7. You’ll Stop Guessing and Start Preparing—Together

Marriage isn’t something you should just “wing.” But that’s exactly what so many couples do—because they don’t know what to talk about, or how to talk about it.

This guide removes the guesswork and gives you a roadmap to:

Strengthen your relationship,
Identify your strengths and challenges,
Build a foundation that lasts.

And best of all? It’s just $7—for a limited time.

Key Takeaways:

At the heart of every strong marriage is a foundation built on clarity, connection, and shared understanding. The Top 10 Conversations for Engaged Couples guide isn’t just a checklist—it’s a powerful tool to help you lay that foundation before your big day. These conversations are your opportunity to lean in, listen closely, and intentionally prepare for the journey ahead—not with fear, but with purpose. Whether you're months away from your wedding or simply planning your future together, investing time in these topics now can make all the difference later. Your marriage deserves this kind of preparation—and you both deserve the confidence that comes with knowing you’re truly ready. 💛